Kellogg pronounced that bad sex on the wedding night can even kill, warning: Women were strongly encouraged to have many children with one book from the time stating: The book also covers Victorian approaches to bathing, personal hygiene and beauty. When it came to washing, women were told that a freezing cold sponge bath while standing up was the best method.
It was feared that wetting the body all over could lead to infection. Another worry was that lying down in a warm bath was a sure way of conjuring up impure thoughts. For washing their hair women were advised to dilute pure ammonia — a caustic chemical compound — with warm water and rub it directly into the scalp. When the mix reacted with water it was a highly effective but also dangerous way of stripping away grime — plus a few layers of skin. In the late 19th century sanitation was still poor and raw sewage ran through city streets.
People literally stank and women did their best to conceal the odour. Pungent onion juice was also used as a type of Victorian shampoo. For treating head lice, a concoction of vinegar and lard was suggested.
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Toilet roll was not widely available until the s when it was first sold under the counter by pharmacists. Everything a woman put near her body was infused with thick floral perfume to try to mask body odour. One popular Victorian perfume was ambergris, which came from waste fluid that was found in the intestines of sperm whales.
Women would also sleep with thin slices of raw beef on their faces in the hope of restoring youthful skin. In the puritanical Victorian era it is a surprise to discover in the new book that women favoured crotchless knickers. Yet there was no racy motive for this. The fashion merely allowed women who were shrouded in layers of voluminous clothing — designed to cover every inch of flesh — to crouch over a chamber pot without having to disrobe. You would not have made them in your late teens or 20's or?.
At those ages we don't think about all of your points. I know that what men think of and women think of is different at that age range but not what you suggest, at least equally. Hi well let's not be completely negative when dealing with women. What men need to understand is try to know what your woman wants in order to be satisfied with you and in a relationship with you.
You can give a try to visit my webiste which ha ssome decent articles about how to seduce and manage women the best way possible. I just wanted to say I love reading your thoughts about this subject, especially "sometimes your woman wants to be your bitch. Or, if you're like me and are fit and considered somewhat attractive to women, then the wife seeing other women desire you sexually gets her juices flowing. It's taken me 50 years and four children with two cheating partners to realise this I was clearly a hopeless romantic, but have now been well and truly educated.
My Son's have been warned accordingly What I would give to be able to go back in time and warn my younger self about the perils of women The best I can hope for now, is to warn my sons of the dangers and price they will pay if they follow the same path. Thankfully, they can see how much damage their Mother's infidelities and treatment did to me over the years, and I think the message has got home Women are seemingly genetically programmed to be 'users' This is made possible by the base sexual drivers of heterosexual males, mesmerized by long hair, pretty faces, ample breasts, shapely backsides and vaginas, etc.
This is exploited mercilessly by females to extract financial gain. Eventually one learns to turn the tables. Tell them what they want to hear so you can have sexual intercourse with them, then extract yourself as quickly as possible. All of you men are missing the point! If she thinks you out of your mind in lust with her, can't do anything but want to have sex with ONLY her.
Like rip her clothes off fuck her on the kitchen counter, your woman will not lose interest in you or in having LOTS of sex with only you. It's the desire piece your not understanding. That even if you pretend your out of your mind with desire for her, she so hot she making you loose your mind, she will be satisfied and not look for another man to fulfill sexual needs!
How is it worse for men when women suffer the loss of libido and men are so jealous and ready to cheat? We are the ones that suffer. It's women who now make their own money that see what a neat little prison marriage makes for women! Yes, because those women who make money fear getting shafted in divorce. In other words, they fear being treated like a man.
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Women feel that they should be paid for their sexuality -- they expect to be adored and desired simply because they have a vagina, when the truth is, it just isn't worth anything after the orgasm. One more thing tho. Men and women feel more powerful when they obtain a different partner, loosely known as "When they score". I'd have to say I'm not married but my sons mother was the first woman to just lay and rub my balls after sex.
Join and find thousands of people like you, all looking for someone special. Its free , you can write your profile, search and browse through your matches and receive messages. I usually skim through most of these articles, because there lacking or there's really no dept or outright answers, but this view of what motivates women's sexual desires or lack of was impressive.. Psychology Today, for this! I felt very normal after reading.. I agree that men are better off not marrying. My own sons have come to that conclusion without any input from me. But I have to disagree with the order that a marital partner loses interest in the other.
I had just gotten back from my honeymoon when my wife shut down sexual access. Her mother used to "joke" about "once a month whether he needs it or not", and eventually I determined that this really was the strategy. I also noticed my sisters and daughters being taught how to use sex in Pavlovian manner, as a reward to reinforce "correct" behavior. So despite the assertion in another article here at PT that women seek to drive men wild with lust to overcome her reluctance, that only works if she is enticing a wealthy man. One whose paycheck barely covers the weekly essentials is never allowed to exercise that same privilege.
Assuming that all women are like this is just as bad as assuming all men aren't interested in their partners beyond sex.
Sorry, but historical evidence contradicts your statement. Read up on Divorce Settlement Precedents, then comment. In short, you are so right. My wife is amazing. When she wants sex it is awesome. Every other day of the month its not important. And i am a jerk for suggesting there is anything wrong with 14 times a year. I am also dumb enough to get strung along with the promise of interest later if I do good during the day. Its a tired tune. Women have a commodity now. They exploit it in a modern society.
While I won't dispute marriage may not benefit a man my boyfriend says he will never marry again , I can assure you all women are not like your wife and her family. It's unfortunate you have experienced that. Here's to a bright future for you! Yeah we know that, but you must also realise that without sex a man is worthless and not fulfiled in life because sex allows for procreation and of couse everyone knows that procreation is the essence of life.
So you now can see that sex is a very important aspect of a man's life. After 25 years of marriage, she has cheated 3 times, l have never. I worked my backside off to give her a good life, and secure and he repaided me by screwing a colleague on my desk in my office. I had a bought of serious doubts just before we married, my biggest regret is not listening to my gut and pulling out then.
My previous serious 18 month relationship, was ended by me when I discovered my fiancee was cheating on me with a work colleague whilst I worked three jobs to pay the mortgagee. Marriage is most certainly not in the favour of men. We even gets screwed again by the courts when we try to rid ourselves in Divorce. I've told my Son's not to marry. I have not told them that if they do, they inherit nothing. Me, the one he sang juicy fruit to. Went to counseling but just could not continue the farce so I asked for a divorce.
I met someone else and at 45 discovered that I could have multiple orgasms in one session. I was in a sexual coma in that marriage for over 20 years. Life is too short for that. Women need to be able to enjoy their sexual nature just like men. I think your story resounds with thousands of women everywhere.
I'm curious though, did you try talking to him when you first felt "dead" sexually? Did you tell him that you love his chivalry but hate that he doesn't excite you sexually? I wonder if he could have changed his behavior and re-ignited things for you. It sucks, us guys really have a hard time understanding how to treat you.
I feel like I'm always playing a game with my wife: After a short period 1 or 2 days of me just not giving a fuck, spending time with friends, doing what I want, not giving her attention, etc when I come back and put the focus on her, it ignites her.
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Our sex is crazy raw. The stuff they write in books. Multiple orgasms, fantasy role play, multiple hours of foreplay and sex, etc are very normal for us. I bet your husband was clueless. Probably thought he was doing everything right.
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Sucks he didn't have a chance to fix it, or at least try. And even then, he might not have know how. All my male friends agree. We're all in our 40's or so about 8 of us discussed this late one night over beers and are either Divorced, Separated or have remained married for financial or child-raising reasons. Interestingly, in all cases the overwhelming feeling was of regret and that nature and tradition had tricked us all into an unhealthy life, dressed up as potential happiness.
They had been happy at one point, but could more or less pinpoint a turning point, when it was too late, and they were trapped. Our children are much better informed nowadays Millennials and have learnt to be selfish and not to fall for the traditional traps. They are therefore, determined to be free and live their lives as they wish.
Sadly, I have to agree entirely.
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With the benefit of the infinite wisdom of hindsight, I would not marry. Stay free and single, have what you want, when you want, where you want. Women, first and foremost, want a man otherwise they'd be happy with just their girl friends, family and poodle. Highly desirable women don't need to be desired because they already are.
They want commitment of resources which is why the most beautiful women in a society marry the richest men in their society. Our well-being depends in part on which questions we choose to engage. Back Find a Therapist. Fertilization Not Random After All?
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Are Psychopaths Unfairly Stigmatized? Inequality as a Lethal Disorder. What Do Women Really Want? New research challenges old ideas about female sexual desire. What do women want? So what does she want? This question, as Freud intuited, is not easy to answer. Be sure to read the following responses to this post by our bloggers: As Billy Joel sang, "She'll take what you give her as long as it's free As a married man I can attest that I would have been far better off had I not gotten married. Amen Submitted by Anonymous on August 23, - 2: I plan to tell my sons the same.
What I got out of this Submitted by Anonymous on May 20, - 6: What I got out of this article was three things: Sexually successful men Submitted by betty boop on July 24, - 6: Well the majority of divorces Submitted by Aldous on March 27, - 1: A brief look into actual Submitted by Bree on February 18, - 5: Stop with the false statistics and already disproven MRA rhetoric. Your response seems to be a males.
Submitted by Anonymous on May 30, - You need to master you seducing approach Submitted by Seducelove on December 21, - 5: Ilovereadingthis Submitted by Siri on November 8, - 1: Or, if you're like me and are Submitted by Jiminy Cricket on November 10, - 2: I can't encourage Submitted by Anonymous on September 28, - 5: I can't encourage something that I know will do them emotional harm. What women want Submitted by Men just don't get it on May 8, - 2: How is it worse for men when Submitted by Anonymous on August 30, - 7: Yes, because those women who Submitted by Pjay on April 11, - 2: Women feel that they should Submitted by Anonymous on October 15, - 4: Few women are that desirable for more than a few times.
An therein lies the problem for women. One more Submitted by Anonymous on March 17, - 7: And so the mind thoughts of a typical self centered male user. Have a good life! Unattractive Submitted by theasdgamer on March 30, - 3: You open your mouth and make yourself unattractive.
Your opinion does not matter to me. Wow, you have a terrible Submitted by Rhey on September 22, - Wow, you have a terrible perspective on life. Hey Submitted by Stan on October 20, - 1: Submitted by Anonymous on March 14, - Submitted by Anonymous on April 13, - 2: Is that really necessary? Does this comment even have a purpose? Marriage is a woman's game Submitted by pessimist on March 15, - 8: Not all the same Submitted by Anonymous on April 13, - 2: Submitted by Anonymous on April 11, - 9: All Women Are Like That.