Fogel subjected his former school-mate to a nine-year campaign of harassment during which he Googled her name 40, times in a year, posed as a prospective parent at her child's nursery, broke into her car and made hundreds of late-night phone calls to her. He was finally sentenced to two years in prison in January.
The knock-on effect of Fogel's actions was devastating. Claire lost weight, had bouts of sleeplessness and was forced to move home five times. She remains "hyper-vigilant" about the safety of her two children, aged six and three, and her marriage has been "under an incredible amount of stress and strain". Claire says one of the difficulties in getting the relevant authorities to take stalking seriously is that the impact is often psychological and hard to prove.
You know you're being watched and you have that feeling, that animal instinct, all the time… it's not flattering in any way whatsoever. And there is, of course, a very real danger that stalking can escalate into something much worse. Dhalla launched a four-month campaign to trace his ex's movements. Harry Fletcher , the assistant general secretary of the probation union Napo and an adviser on the Parliamentary Inquiry into stalking law reform, says that many victims don't report stalking because of fear: Indeed, research compiled by Dr Lorraine Sheridan at Heriot-Watt University three years ago found that, on average, three-quarters of stalking victims aged wait for at least incidents before contacting the police.
These are not empty words. Stalking has been described, with good reason, as "murder in slow-motion". The facts of Sam Taylor's case make for harrowing reading. In , her long-term partner and the father of her children who were then 10 months and two years old revealed that he had once been convicted of tying up and raping a year-old girl. Her partner had served a five-year prison sentence for the crime before they met. Unbeknown to Sam, he had been on the sex offenders' register for almost a decade.
When the police discovered he had two children, they told him they would be forced to inform his partner unless he did so himself. Sam was left traumatised by the confession. She moved out, taking the children to her parents, who lived nearby. He was arrested and spent two weeks in custody, from where he sent around 40 letters to Sam, her parents and her neighbours. When he was released on a restraining order, he broke it — sending Sam a text with a picture of a noose and the message: Again, he was arrested, sentenced to 32 weeks and released after He was permitted to live "five minutes' walk" from Sam's house.
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But by this stage, a terrified Sam and her children were sheltering in a women's refuge. It's not until you find yourself in a situation like this that you understand. He broke into her house and switched off the electricity at the mains. He contacted her parents and sent a sexually explicit email to her friend's teenage daughter. And all the time, Sam says, there was a presumption that she was the one at fault. I'm in the same place as him and I've gone there to have him arrested," she explains. How, I wonder, does she find the strength to talk so openly about her case when it has cost her so much?
That's what keeps me sane.
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A lot of people feel shame or they feel embarrassed. I don't feel ashamed. As Dr Farnham outlines, in a large number of cases there is a perception of rejection which results in a dangerous fixation on the victim. But broader social forces are also at play: A WOMAN who went on one date with a man fell in love with him, stalked him and sent him 65, texts. This is the bizarre reason she gave for her behaviour.
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Jacqueline Ades was arrested earlier this month and slapped with charges after sending 65, text messages. IF YOU thought your last date was disastrous, spare a thought for this poor guy.
In a truly bizarre case, a woman has delivered a rambling jailhouse press conference after allegedly stalking said guy and sending him more than 65, text messages — after they went on a single date. The texts became so scary that the woman said she would kill her date if he left her, cut him up and wear his body parts.
Jacqueline Ades was arrested earlier this month and slapped with charges of threatening and intimidating, stalking and harassment. To ask other readers questions about I'll Be Watching You , please sign up.
Rejected, love-obsessed and erotomanic: Inside the disturbed mind of a stalker
Lists with This Book. This book is not yet featured on Listopia. Stalking is an increasingly worrying crime made even worse by the internet nowadays too. Looking back on an old breakup I was what is called stalked now back then and in this time he'd have been prosecuted but back in the 80's unless you were physically and visibly hurt the police could do nothing!! Aug 05, T. Carper rated it it was ok.
Inside look at some famous and not-so-famous cases in both the US and UK. Included are John Lennon's stalker, Hinkley who stalked Jodie Foster and people who stalked non-celebrities and even women stalking men. A good, solid look at stalking in the pres. Stewart Davies rated it really liked it Jul 24, Kym Brand rated it it was amazing Jan 14, Heather Lowcock rated it it was ok Jan 21, Avidreader rated it it was amazing Jan 15, Jessica rated it liked it Sep 06, Blythe rated it liked it Jun 10, Tasmin Betty rated it it was amazing Aug 27, Virginia Rand rated it really liked it Aug 29, Raf rated it liked it May 13, Anita Dalton rated it really liked it Jan 25, Oct 25, Suzie Flohr rated it it was ok.
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