Research published in from Southern Methodist University c orrelated weight gain and marriage satisfaction in early marriage newlyweds were more likely to gain weight if they were happy. Marriage is good for your health, but only if it's a healthy marriage! Plus, single people may avoid some of the bad health habits that come from settling down.
No surprise here that married people have sex more often than singletons. Data compiled by Statista from the Journal of Sexual Medicine in shows that When you're single, you usually don't have to deal with a partner who hogs the bed or steals the covers. It seems like many people aren't getting enough sleep anyway, no matter what their relationship status is. Data from the CDC shows that almost one-third of American adults aren't getting the recommended seven hours of sleep each night , and single mothers are getting even less.
The study found that Adults either without kids or without kids at home got a few more winks closer to the right amount, where Perhaps a snoring partner is the culprit for some of this lack of sleep. Snoring regularly affects 37 million sleepers. For singletons, snoring probably isn't as much of an issue -- and every night doesn't feel like an eternity. No one hogging the bed, no one keeping you up, and no kids to barge in? Single life is sleep life. Ready to cross over to the other team?
Getting hitched can really add up, for all concerned. Those not saying "I do" aren't necessarily off the hook either.
However, out-of-town travel, gifts and suitable attire can certainly drive up the cost. Doesn't hurt to pray for an elopement. No one's forcing you to spend major cash on a wedding. We hear backyard celebrations are totally in. Everyone knows the stereotype of the lonely spinster with a gajillion cats, but according to the numbers, families have more critters.
Granted, partnerships between pets and singles are growing. Results from an American Veterinary Medical Association study indicate the percentage of single adults with pets grew from Families with pets grew from Pets trigger health benefits that help everyone , such as decreasing blood pressure and cholesterol. They help ease loneliness and even provide chances to meet new human friends and dates. To the dog park! Unfortunately, statistics are elusive for some valuable benefits of being single or married; however, they're still worth noting. One partner in a couple can be the resident bug swatter.
Couples can enjoy the perks of trading off designated driver duties after a night out on the town, as well as nab a spot in HOV multiple-occupancy highway lanes. If you have a partner, you don't have to worry about facing an amusement park ride by yourself, since those tiny little cars usually come in sets of two. But, if you're single, you never have to wrestle for control of the remote or run every financial decision past someone else. You still get to have awesome relationships with friends and family, and if you get that dream job across the country, you're probably a lot more mobile.
I've had a few- very few relationships, but never a true LOVE relationship. And right now, it's been many many years since I'd been in any erotic relationship at all - mainly, but not exclusively, because nobody has approached me. I feel the same way this woman does. For years I met nice women, but none ever wanted to go past one date.
I stopped dating at The pool by then was pretty bad. Online dating didn't help either. I tried it for 8 months. I had women view my profile, I contacted 40, ten replied, and none wanted to even meet for coffee. I concluded that dating after 40 or even 50 is just not worth it. People stop looking at you after I just got tired of rejection and one time dates. I no longer want to date at all. It was always annoying and disappointing for me. And BTW, many women have a strong dislike for happy, accomplished and confident women, too - and for the same reason. Be that as it may, it is true that a confident "catch" will likely find it much more difficult to meet and date a good match.
As you age up, you find either leftovers or overachievers from my experience. The bell curve takes over.
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The bulk of good matches are gone, so you find mostly the folks at the high end or low end. Midrange people have left the game. It's frustrating and sad. Most men do not care about your degrees, talents, or even income. They care about looks and personalities. I've seen many successful women with terrible issues. The worst issue is entitlement. If you want a partner, seek one, don't expect one to appear without effort. Once you get that "intimidated" and "threatened" nonsense out of your head, you'll finally be able to see those of us who AREN'T any of those things.
Women who run around using these terms only see the men who they perceive to be "threatened" by their material things and other things that you merely expect from an adult, but such women think are special and exclusive A man that hates and fears women - sounds like a man that no woman would want in the first place. I am extremely self-confident and I have always been pursued by amazing men. If self-confidence filters out the losers, fantastic - but I have not seen men running from me in fear, nor spewing hatred in my direction.
Perhaps men are not as bad as you think. It's a shame that you hold on to these negative ideas. I would be interested to know how you came by them. Maybe some woman need to give a guy a chance rather than judge them from first meet some guys woman need to get to know them there are some men that can be a little nervous or shy at first but if you get to know them you probably wouldn't let them go. It goes both ways. I know PLENTY of wonderful women who were never given a chance even for a first encounter, because men did not find them physically attractive enough.
Yes, of course we should give others a chance. Everyone should try to empathize, but it can be so difficult. Empathy takes a lot of work and practice. I have made very similar comments to those I read here. It's ironic that now, when I believe I do empathize better, I have too many responsibilities to even pursue friendship. Both my parents were diagnosed with Alzheimer's.
I really don't have time to even live my own life. I hope that you can live yours and that you will try to empathize with the people you meet. We all have our fears and insecurities. Not many of us can see someone else's. I wish you the best. For loving help with this, it is entirely caused by eating BEEF, and because beef has the red blood left in it so it sells far more than the normal ugly grayish brown.
And, all animal blood cells are sticky in human arteries. The way God made our inner system concerning this, and all other nerve signal passings, is that the memory things pass through the blood in the artery locations that, like in this case, CONNECT the two. A major hospital knows the heart attack blockage is blood cells and not cholesterol, period. By the way, when an arm goes to sleep, it's because of the artery being squeeze shut, and no blood goes through. In war times, doctors cut and closed arteries to stop pain instantly, and afterwards, the see paralysis, and assume that is the end result.
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All blindness, can be totally reversed by transplanting eyes, AND just connecting the two artery parts, together!!! I have to completely agree about strong, confident women being a total turnoff. This is the case for all of my friends and me, NOT because we're afraid of them or we are weak. As a matter of fact, I'm a leader type, with major international accomplishments, great salary, knowledge, confidence, confidence to approach ANY female.
So then, you akkor why we avoid the confident - usually translating to over-confident poser type - of women? Sticking to traditional roles in a marriage can ensure, as it still does at a few places, way better-working marriages, more happiness, statistically proven lower divorce rates, etc. As long as I properly take my lady out to a dinner and I don't expect her to fix the car, I won't accept to be expected to wipe the kid's butt or take off work to be the wuss-stay-home-dad - a disgrace of species, imho. Superconfident girls are much more likely to wear the pants and mistaken their role to be that of a leader or co-leader, from the traditionally well-working supporter-and-family-raiser.
Intelligent, confident men will not switch roles and start begging for dinner or sex. Intelligent but short-term thinker confident women WILL take the leader role, won't cook but expect to be supported in their career, and will get a divorce, or be happy with a servant male.
No way for me and my hundreds of US and European friends. If you want a happy marriage, be a GUY and be amazing at your GUY roles, and ladies, you don't try to be an alpha woman, but be a LADY and make it easier for your husband to spoil you by supporting him. Women aren't going back to the home, ever. Men like you are losers, and women should avoid you like the plague. We are not put on this earth to be sex toys, incubators, and servants for men.
Get that through your head. Then they will remain single and become cat ladies. Only in this country and some supposedly "advanced" European countries does this poisonous, anti-family, anti-designed-by-God mentality prevail. It's not enough to have "yourself, your company, your body" since pretty much everyone else looking for dates has that too, so it's not like it's really an extra feature you have over anyone else. I am convinced that men don't think I am attractive enough to want to date.
Because men are so visual, it won't matter if someone else tells them, "Hey, I know you will really like this person, she's great because Too often, looks are the ticket to wanting to engage the other's interest to then show your great personality. Otherwise, you're left hoping that the man or woman will still give you a chance, knowing what you look like and not being attracted.
The same goes for women looking at guys' handsomeness, muscles, salary, before giving them a chance at showing their intelligence, caring or being a gentleman. Like just DAYS from now!!! Where do you live and how old are you, i highly doubt your undateable A lucky girl might like you. Of course, if you think you have nothing to offer anyone, you become unappealing; but what do you think most people have to offer each other? Men, and women too, want someone to talk to, to laugh with, to walk through the woods with, to sleep with and to plan a future with.
Everyone's life is interesting. Someone does not have to be well-educated, or full of energy, or rich to be interesting. People want someone they can count on to be with them when they need someone. They want someone to love, someone who loves them. It's just that I've been basically treated like a loser throughout my life starting with my mother, who abused me.
Now I can't shake this "loser" mentality. I feel inferior to every single person I meet, and of course that leads to people treating me like crap. So what I'm saying is that a sense of worthlessness will prevent you from being married. If I could change this feeling I would have by now. It's slowly destroying me. ABC, I am so sorry that it is so hard for you. There are so many things you can offer someone. A shoulder, an ear, a welcoming smile. I am not an expert at anything, certainly not at psychology, but I want to tell yout that I do think it is very good that you realize that your feelings of inferiority are causing other people to treat you badly.
That does not mean you are inferior. It just means they are weak, and, like all of us, struggling to feel as strong as they can, and this causes some people to behave badly. Not one or two times but a hundred times. Get counseling if you think that is something you can do. Take an acting class if that will help. Pretending to be confident is as good as being confident, at least as a start. ABC, please keep trying. You do have something to offer.
You can offer a shoulder, an ear, a welcoming smile.
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I am not an expert at anything, certainly not at psychology, but I think it's a very good thing that you recognize that it's your own feelings of inferiority that can cause some others to mistreat you. This in no way means that you are inferior, just that they are, like all of us, weak and struggling for ways to feel stronger. If you think that you need counseling, please get it. If you can, take an evening class in acting or public speaking.
Pretending to be confident is most of the battle. Hi Doc I am an attractive intelligent woman who is kind and caring. I was very sick for 10 years but now I am better. That left me pretty broke and a little burnt out, but I still want to meet a nice man who loves me and is healthy and attractive. I have travelled around the world. I am never married with no kids and am 58 years old. Every man I meet on the Internet wants to have sex immediately really and they are extremely cheap even though they have money and good jobs and are very poorly groomed.
I have completely given up on the Internet. The men I meet in person here in NYC are fleeting acquaintances at best. I freelance and find it hard to connect as I work with different people all the time and have only a small amount of exposure - and it's all business. Then of course I do go out on my own but as I was sick for so long I do not have great economic means so there is just so much I can do in that regard. I always had so many boyfriends when I was younger.
I feel so invisible now. My last serious relationship ended very badly 4 years ago and I have not had any boyfriend since then. I do not know exactly why I cannot find some one to marry. I have 5 siblings who have all been married. My older relatives who I was close with have passed away.
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I always wanted to get married. I am beginning to lose hope. I wonder why no-one has replied to this in almost five months It seems that it's those who seem more immediately needy who get all the attention - just like in real life. Women who are aware of their own catch-worthiness get crickets and silence. Anyway, I wish you the best of luck.
I am only a few years younger than you, but I haven't had a proper boyfriend since the late s. Yes, that is correct. And it's been many, many years that I've had an erotic encounter. I don't "do" internet dating. For one thing, I am too well known where I live to expose myself; and secondly, I find very few men appealing anyway. I also never really dreamed about getting married and never wanted children.
But I do crave love, affection and sex. I am now convinced my love life is over. It has been over for a long, long time, but now I am aware it's irrevocably closed. However, I am also convinced that people's lives are hugely individual, so YOU may still be found by love. I hope you are. Hi HH Thank you for your kind and thoughtful reply to my posting. We all need love, affection and sex. I personally, I am very alone in this world and would like a partner - a husband would be great. I think many people do not understand the benefits of marriage.
Moreover, I think many people, men I have met also, do not have the character to dedicate themselves to the concept of mutual love, understanding, companionship and support. They are so down on the idea they would rather live alone forever, picking up an unsuspecting woman here and there when their emotional reserves run low. This is not the conduct of a human being with a soul.
It is the conduct of a detached person who does not have empathy for others. Best wishes to you too. I have had no trouble finding, starting and maintaining relationships with men and have been with my partner for over 20 years, married for the last However, I can't do friendships with women. Can't start them, maintain them or defend myself within them if I need to. I seem to have acquaintanceships instead. Some aspects of those two points apply to me, and seem to be a whole new way to look at the problem.
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Unless raised around if not as the children of truly happy, healthy married couples, never-married single people who's goal in meeting others is to end up "married to the love of their life" are banking on a fantasy. It is my opinion that, sadly, a great many of us Baby-Boomers on down to the newest generation of adults have had deficient relationship role-modeling significant enough to impair our ability to create successful relationships for ourselves without doing some level of personal repair work first.
Of course it's great if a goal for yourself is to be in a happy marriage with or without happy children , and if you are a reserved person, or you work 60 hours a week with all married people, you should have a social strategy to meet and get to know single people of your preferred gender. But -- some very important goals should be set and met first, or I believe you will be setting yourself up for disaster if your trip to the therapist is simply to identify ways to meet and attract potential mates who aren't alcoholics.
Goal 1 If you have low emotional intelligence, problems with anxiety, self-worth, or otherwise are not mentally healthy, get help and work as much as you can to resolve these issues before you walk down the isle with someone. If, like so many of us, you have issues, chances are that unhealthy early caregivers and role models were a factor.
You may find you are drawn to problematic people or have unrealistic expectations, and you'll want to work these things out as best you can first!! Goal 2 Gain as much wisdom as possible about what makes a happy long-term marriage happen. Early romantic love is intoxicating, but really has almost nothing to do with a marriage that stays happy for the long haul. Do your best to take these things in before, so you don't get your clue in your post-divorce therapy. Goal 3 Get out there and become an expert at making friends and having healthy friendships, of all kinds.
Be kind but assertive and don't settle for friends who are jerks. Learn about yourself and work out the kinks along the way. And, if you have a goal to be happily married, it need not be listed separately, as it is very likely here that you will find your partner for life when you least expect it, in a best friend you have made along the way. Thank you for this comment.
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It's spot-on, and I wanted to address the "self-worth" problem, but you've done so perfectly here. I'm working on Steps 2 and 3 after spending three years on Step 1, which helped me feel worthy of love and to become sure that I wanted marriage. I'm forwarding your response to some of my single friends. There comes a time when you face the reality that the dating game is a waste of time and that you need to quit with the fantasy you have to have somebody to validate your existence.
This is especially true for women. There comes a time when it is an exercise in futility, especially if you are past fifty. I wrote the whole dating game off by the time I was 30; the men simply weren't there anymore. I decided to focus on myself and live life on my terms. The only disadvantage in being never married is economic, and it is a big one for women, but even then I never felt it was a fair trade to give up everything just for some guy.
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Tonysam you are so right. At 50 or so, dating is such a depressing endeavor. I'm 61, and I did my best for over 30 yrs. For years I was told I just hadn't met the right person and other BS. Truth is, by 30 most decent male or female prospects are gone. Every decade from 30 on dating got harder and worse. The pool was just a nightmare. At 46 I quit. As you age up, you find only survivors or rejects from my experience. Women don't need men today like they once did and act accordingly. The best prospects for marriage I ever had were girls in my high school class I never met anyone after that I'd marry.
At that time I had no idea it would play out that way. Read the book Save the Males or Men on Strike. Men don't have an easy time finding partners either. As one woman told me years ago--you're a nice guy, but you're not what women are looking for today. You don't have what they want. She was so right. I don't miss dating at all. It was always a headache and total aggravation.
From what I gather of the young guys I work with, marriage is what is called a "damaged brand. The good news is that I think in the U. The "happier than anywhere else" people also happen to have one of the highest rate of suicide in the world. When patients are offered advice, why do they tend not to take it? Back Find a Therapist.
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